A generation of Fads

So someone once challenged me and told me the internet has been a breeding ground of “narcissistic intelligence”… being the hardnut that I am, there had to be a heated back-and-forth before I was totally convinced about this matter ( I always crave a good debate; and the opportunity presented itself).

Who’s a narcissist?

A habit in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others.

Strictly, it’s used to mean being self-absorbed and having an inflated opinion on ourselves and our capabilities… not to be confused with self esteem, but there’s a thin line separating the two extremes. Being confident is good but being cocky about it is another.

So back to this altercation I had, it does seem true to say we are ignorant with our online ‘persona’ : We give savvy political commentary on twitter debates and forums; take part in “big talks” on facebook groups and pages so as to inflate our up-to-date knowledge; whenever we do come across a thought-provoking article online we leave comments that are well written full of linguistics to prove we are well articulate and word smart!

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And all for what?!? The praise and status quo we believe we have. And yes this is narcissistic of us since we only give this much effort because the internet helps distant ourselves from the reality we live in… so we feel safe to be a ‘somebody’ to other nobody(s) we know nothing about and who wouldn’t otherwise know the person we really are… it’s a feel good mind illusion. And don’t roll your eyes at me we both know that’s true myself included. Just that act of having an active online presence has the power to make us feel we are greater than what we are. Feel more knowledgable than our intelligence allows of us.

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A false sense of importance

On Social Media
I decided to quit all social media activity 3yrs ago since I realised it was a constructive way of wasting my life. It took a little bit of maturity and common sense to see just how much of my time I was investing in meaningless stuff. Time that at the time,  I would have used on improving myselfrather than on gaining more IG followers and posting happenings of my life that were of no use to other people. But whether this is anything to me or not… this is the culture of our generation today.

~The millennials 15 to 29 year olds of this day and age

We are head over heels on “improving” and “maintaining” our social media image so as to meet the cut on what society values good/worthy.

It’s a TOTAL frenzy!!! No, you don’t look anything like those picture perfect selfie photos... it’s all in the angle and image edits. No your 1Million instagram followers don’t give you real gravitation or fame… they are people who care less about who you are as a person and more about what you post for them to feast on! Those 500 facebook likes means you are popular… to a virtual reality crowd. And twitter? The followers… Do You personally know any one of them?

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It’s a fad for christ sake. And this is what a fad is :

An intense and widely shared enthusiasm for something, especially one that is short-lived and without basis in the object’s qualities; a craze.

I think each demon is beautiful. So although all these false “personalities” we create leads us to fall prey to inferiority complexes … they do give meaning to how we relate to one other in society.

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You’re either cool or lame; hot or not; smart or naive; street savvy or clueless; talented or average… this is what our society perpetuates. Labels and identities are the order of the day. See it as a blesssing or curse… just try not to lose yourself. #Live in your truth

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Be authentic; It's important

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10 thoughts on “A generation of Fads

  1. ‘it’s a feel good mind illusion’ – I love this phrase! Such a good read 🙂 🙂
    I’d completely agree that as a society we are addicted to instant gratification in the form of a like and/or retweet. We live in a society that demands a well established ‘personal brand’ in order to prove ourselves as worthy, especially for particular jobs (think markers or public relation officers etc), this is something that was drilled into us in our final year of uni as prep for getting us ready for employment and there is definitely huge, damaging qualities to this social construct. Some days I wish I didn’t buy into it all & could be a disciplined as you and delete all my social media accounts!
    On a lighter note – Happy New Year!

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    1. It definately is what society expects of us and sadly though it’s a widely popular craze it does seem like a total waste of valuable time. Time that we could use for human interactions rather than fidgeting away on our cell phone, tablets, ipads etc
      However once you are in the cycle it becomes an addiction and breaking off isn’t easy… I struggled with it! Just take it one step at a time Taylor, if you’re looking to quit.
      Happy New Year to you too Taylor!! 🙂

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      1. you are welcome. How do you differentiate ones with self esteem or others with narcissist behaviour?

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      2. In my opinion Self esteem is healthy and is an important trait in life
        … for everyone to have. Self esteem is soft spoken shows confidence without one bragging.
        However a nacissist is obnoxious. And they tend to have repelling personalities. Since they are full of pride and have corny ways; always trying to show how good they are in an aim to hide their deep insecurities. It comes off as needy.
        I hope that answers you pal 🙂

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